The word mother brings to mind the soft, kind, loving and nurturing person. 21st century mom is a multi tasking, constantly on the move, focused and a super manager, both at work and home. She is not just a NURTURER but an ENABLER too. The desire and an effort to raise perfect kids and be a high performer herself, poses immense challenge. The resultant effect is high stress, lack of balance and breakdown of family structure from joint to nuclear and then to a single parent family. The experiences kids receive in the first 15 years of life shape up and impact the rest of their life.
Every mother wants her child (girl/boy) to be a courageous fighter who can pave the way for self. Much depends upon the experiences we, as mothers, offer to our kids. Children learn more seeing our ACTIONS than listening to our INSTRUCTIONS. Children are the mirror image of parents..more so mothers. Therefore, mothers strength is of paramount significance. An emotionally weak mother is most likely to have a child who will be even weaker. It is important to understand and realize that our tendencies ( both strong and weak) are transferred to our children in multiple times. True investment in our children is not just FINANCIAL but the holistic strength and character of being a true HUMAN BEING. Being Strong is a combination of physical, emotional, spiritual and mental strength. Any missing element leads to imbalance in life.
When I say strong, I mean a confident, courageous mother WHO-
- has a strong conviction in her abilities,
- NEVER GIVES UP,
- is invincible,
- is a trailblazer,
- is willing to learn,
- is able to accept and respect her kids AS THEY ARE,
- is forgiving,
- is highly appreciative and grateful
- Is AN INSPIRATION
You must be wondering how can mothers be so perfect, so idealistic; this is not reality. Very true. None of us are born with all the needed traits. The good news is that our life has immense unbelievable potential which is dormant. With this awareness and realization, we can definitely work on our selves ( for the sake of our children!!). It surely seems an uphill task but trust me it is not impossible. We all have the inherent power to transform our lives and recreate our destinies but we find it more comfortable to live our lives justifying and defending our present ways. Unless we honestly see the need to change and make a sincere effort to undergo our human revolution, things will not move in the desired direction. Children are watching us as to how do we, as mothers, handle difficult situations, difficult relationships, challenging uncertainties, etc. The words we use in such situations, what is our body language, what are our actions; are we reacting or responding.. everything is very closely analysed by children. This re iterates the need for mothers to self introspect and self improve. A transformation in a mother’s life is the biggest investment in her children.
The intention of this article is not to make mothers have any regrets or feel guilty but to take an action NOW from this moment onwards. Present is a reflecttion of the causes made in the past and future is determined by the causes made in the present. So, it is the PRESENT which is the true gift.
I will leave you with daily do able four action points –
- Meet yourself in SILENCE..- create the ME time to self introspect
- Appreciate
- Have Gratitude
- Forget and forgive
Try and experience the magical results…
